Party Tips

If you're hosting a party:

2. Let guys know up front what kind of party it is (vanilla, gang bang, leather, fetish, fisting, watersports, chem-sex, cross-dressing, bareback, anything goes).  Let them know what you will and will not allow at the party.  This will save you and your guests some unwelcome surprises.

3.  Unless you really like party crashers and aren't too particular about what kind of guys show up, don't give out your home address, hotel room number, or phone number in a public chat room or e-list.  Only give it out privately to guys that have confirmed they will be coming.  Some hosts arrange for guests to meet them in a public place, like a parking lot or club, and follow them to the party location.

4.  Tell folks in advance what the party venue will be.  Is it at a house, in an apartment, in a barn, in a hotel, in a rented club or a bar backroom, in a sex club or bathhouse, on a yacht?  Some guys aren't comfortable going to the house of someone they don't know.  Others don't like apartments or hotels because of the extra restrictions on drugs or noise.  Still others are very closeted and paranoid about someone seeing them going into a known gay bar or bathhouse.

5. If you don't like party crashers (or undercover cops) keep a list of the guests that are coming.  If they're on the net, ask them for their screen names or e-mail addresses.  Use a password if you really want to be careful who gets in.

6.  Let guys know in advance if they can bring along a friend or two or three.

7. Please be able to give easy directions to the party location.  Please supply a phone number where you can be reached in case someone can't find the place.

8. If any guys show up early, either invite them to come sit and wait for the others or ask them to come back later. Making guys sit and stand around on your doorstep is rude and may attract attention from your neighbors.

9.  Please specify if condoms, lube, toys, towels, baggies for clothes, sleeping accomodations, "party favors," food, and/or drink will be provided or if guests must provide their own. Please specify ahead of time if you will or will not allow alcohol, smoking, and /or drugs at your party.

10.  If you can, provide a place where guests can store their clothes while they party, preferably a closet or room that can be locked.

11. When specifying what kind of guys you do and don't want at your party, please don't use hurtful language or derogatory terms.  Say "white, in-shape, masculine guys," not "no blacks, fats, or fems."  Many of the very guys you're looking for may boycott your parties if you use derogatory language. If someone shows up that does not fit the description you specified, please be polite when turning them away.

1. If you are attending someone's party, please be courteous and respect them and the other guests and their property and neighbors.

2. Please be sure you know what kind of party it is; and don't go if it's something you're not into, or if you plan on doing something that the other guests are not into. Most fetish enthusiasts are perfectly happy with vanilla sex, but the reverse isn't always true.

3. Please don't show up more than ten minutes early if you can help it, and don't show up ten minutes after the party is supposed to be over. (Though offering to stay and help clean up is a great way to insure you'll be invited back.) Please don't try to crash a party you weren't invited to, and check with the host before bringing along any friends. Bringing women especially is a hot point at these things.

4. If the host specifies BYO, please don't help yourself to whatever's in his fridge. If he asks that you not smoke, drink alcohol, or use drugs in his home, please respect his wishes. (Note: Some consider poppers to be drugs, others don't, so ask beforehand.)

5. If the host specifies safe sex, don't try to bareback with anyone. If you're not into bareback, then don't go just so you can preach at everyone; they're all adults, and it's their bodies and their lives, not yours.

6. If a person at a party approaches you and he for whatever reason is not your type, please turn him down politely. If you are turned down by another guest or even turned away at the door by the host, whether politely or not, please accept it graciously and don't make a scene. If your prejudices regarding another guest are such that you just cannot keep them to yourself, perhaps its best you leave before the host asks you to go.

7. If you are invited to a party, but can't attend, please inform the host. Others may have been turned away because the limit was reached that the host may be able to include once your slot is empty. Besides, its basic courtesy.

8. Please do not announce parties in chat rooms without clearing it first with the host, and even then, don't give out the address, and don't mention them or the address to people you don't know.  And if you learn someone's full name, address, phone number, or other personal info, don't give it out to anyone else.

9. Hint: If the party is BYO, and someone shows up empty-handed, sharing is a great way to get into his pants.

10. Always ask before bringing a video or digital camera, and always ask before filming somebody or taking his picture.
 
 

1.  Never mix poppers with viagra!  Using both together can lower your blood pressure so much that your heart can stop.  Don't use poppers around lit cigarettes, cigars, doobies, or candles, either.

2.  If you're going to imbibe in alcohol, know your limit and stick to it.  Nothing kills the mood at a sex party more than someone throwing up, passing out, or getting punchy.

3.  If you're using ecstasy, drink plenty of water.  Be aware that at high doses, ecstasy can be nuero-toxic (i.e., it kills brain cells).

4.  "No" means "NO!"

5.  Unless you're partying in the middle of bumfuck nowhere, don't stand or sit around naked in the windows or out on the patio.

6.  If you are concerned about HIV or STDs and are using condoms, know how to use them properly.  Use only water-based lubes with latex condoms.  (Polyurethane condoms are now available which can be used with oil-based lubes, just be sure which kind you're using.)

7. If you are concerned about HIV or STDs and practice safe sex, keep in mind that imbibing in poppers, drugs and alcohol can impair your judgement so that you engage in risky behavior you normally wouldn't do, with someone you normally wouldn't do.

8.  If you're doing bondage or fisting, know what you're doing.  Many a bottom has been hurt by an inept and/or inexperienced bondage or fisting top.

9  Have fun! That's what it's all about :)